In the early
days of this blog, when I was still young and naïve, I described three seminal
steps in my progress from being someone who accepted drivable suburbia as
eternal to someone who would call himself an urbanist.
One of those
steps was an observation made during a 2007 trip to Venice. Below, I quote my younger and more naïve self.
“One
evening, I dined in a trattoria on the Piazza San Toma. (Best gnocchi I’ve ever had.) As I ate, an elderly gentleman entered. He was perhaps in his late 70s, tall and
fit. His clothes showed wear, but were
in good repair and nicely pressed. He
carried a sparklingly clean pottery bowl.
“My Italian
was limited, but I could discern that he wanted a double order of a favorite
pasta to take it back to his apartment to share with his wife, who was
physically unable to come to the trattoria.
The proprietor of the trattoria knew the gentleman and greeted him with
warmth and enthusiasm. Several friends
who were dining in a rear room were advised of his presence. They came forward to sit with him as he
awaited his order.
“The
conversation, although far beyond my ability to understand, was voluble and
good-natured. Even the son of the
proprietor, who clearly wanted to be elsewhere on the warm spring evening,
talked familiarly with the gentleman and smiled for the first time all evening.”
In the three
years since I wrote those words, I’ve had many opportunities to observe the
American approach to eldercare. Between
my wife and me, we’ve either coordinated or observed as numerous parents,
uncles, and aunts made the transition from family homes to senior care
facilities. Not all made the transition
directly. Some spent time in other
settings, such as RVs or mountain cabins, enjoying the early years of their retirements. But all have concluded their journeys in
senior care facilities, whether assisted or independent living.
Remarkably,
all but one have been pleased by the transition. And the ones who resisted the move with tenacity
now regret their obstinacy. (The one
hold-out continues to buck medical advice and demands to return to his former
home. But every time he gets there, he
suffers a relapse and is hauled back to the hospital. There can be bull-headed geriatrics,
especially at the age of 89.)
But as content
as my various relatives and in-laws may be in their new settings, I still think
back to the Venetian gentleman. I
suspect that none of the Americans seniors I know experience moments as exhilarating
as the trattoria reunion I witnessed.
However, I’ve
also come to wonder about the remainder of the Venetian gentleman’s daily
life. Living with an invalid wife on a
minor Venetian plaza, how does he spend his winter days? Sitting at a window watching the rain lash
the empty pavement? Compared to that life,
bingo in the recreation room of a senior living facility may look attractive.
I suspect
that there is a way to combine the comfort and security of the American
approach to eldercare with the backslapping moments of greeting the Venetian friends
with whom one has lived a life. The Venn
diagram overlap may be small, but I’ll wager that it exists. And I’m positive that the overlap lies within
the area of walkable urbanism.
Over the
next few weeks, I’ll explore different aspects of how urbanism can make better lives
for senior citizens, from transit to housing options to socialization to
walkability. And I’ll be eager for the input
of others. If we work together, perhaps
we can have solutions in place by the time I need them.
As always,
your questions or comments will be appreciated.
Please comment below or email me.
And thanks for reading. - Dave Alden (davealden53@comcast.net)
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